Imagine a World with No Ageless Dreamer October 29, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamer.Tags: bank account, constipation, controversial, hospitals, investments, nursing home, quality of life
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My emotional bank account cannot withstand any more withdrawals listening to all the doom and gloom. Can’t wait for the election to be behind us. Amen. That being said, imagine a world without interest in our elders, except to keep them alive with or without quality of life — so that payments to the nursing home, or hospital can continue to come in. Sounds controversial, I’m sure. What if, because financial donors to non profits are also feeling the gripping drop in investments, that Ageless Dreamer is forced to shut its doors? Sure we’re still a newbie but we’ve made national attention in the June 2008 edition of Family Circle Magazine. We can still be flexible and mold and remold Ageless Dreamer into more than what it now does. Anyone in business knows that the first three years are the toughest. The fourth year offers hope that you’ll make it to the fifth. February 10, 2009 Ageless Dreamer will celebrate the beginning of it’s 4th year. What if end of year donations come to a scheeching halt. Forget day dreaming. No one will remember to ask if you have an ageless dream. They’ll just be asking if you took your last medicine, if you’ve had a bowl movement recently, or if you’ve paid your taxes. Scary stuff for all us BabyBoomers going forward. If you think this isn’t serious business, or that it doesn’t involve you, visit a local nursing or assisted living place. Imagine it’s YOU sitting there in one of those rooms staring at the TV, the wall, or out the window. The biggest deal of your day was not being constipated.
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Live and Learn…some more October 27, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamer.Tags: AARP, Baby Boomer, National Publicity Summit, Radio-TV Interview Report, Steve Harrison, Woman's World
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Looks like its time for me to write my first book if we want Ageless Dreamer to get above the day to day noise of everyday media. I learned at the National Publicity Summit in NYC these last five days that a book would be my “calling card” — something that I could then be the expert on. The one hundred plus media in attendance were anxious to be “pitched” by us, the attendees, who Steve Harrison, guru of the Radio-TV Interview Report, has spent weeks and weeks training to be prepared to “meet the media”. Limited to only one hundred attendees (so that we all get to meet the media we want to meet), I was one of only two folks who didn’t have a book. Holly smokes. I can’t begin to tell you how suprised I was to find out the value added a book would bring to Ageless Dreamer. I can come up with enough material and photos. The question is: Would anybody be interested in reading and seeing what ageless dreams look like? Woman’s World magazine was at the Summit and told me they can’t write about anything related to “old”. Good grief, I think somebody must have their head stuck in the sand. In 22 short years, ALL, yes, A L L the BabyBoomers are going to be 65 years of age or older. And the 30 something year old reading their magazine is going to be shocked in that same 20+ years when they go to the mailbox and receive their first invitation to AARP. I need an intriguing, provocative title for this book I’m going to write. Something that will “grab you” and make you want to buy it and talk about it. If you think of one, please let me know. I’m counting on you!
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Shirley’s Closet October 15, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamers and Dreams.Tags: ageless, assisted living, call, closet, clothes, girlfriend, inspiration, life
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The call came at 10:47 p.m. Yes, when the phone rings that late at night I look at the clock. My eldest, dearest girlfriend, Shirley Lampke called it a day, a night, a life. She was one classy lady right up until the last 60 days when congestive heart failure, among other life sucking ailments, took control. I won’t go into the details.
What I want to say to anyone listening is what author Elizabeth Coatsworth wrote, and what Ageless Dreamer has been given written permission to use: When I dream I am ageless.
Shirley, born 1921, always had a twinkle in her eye and a skip in her stylish step. When it was decided that it was time for her to move from her assisted living apartment to Paloma, I was asked, as Shirley’s friend, to go into her closet and pick out the clothes she wore most and move the rest on to the resale place. I got carried away, of course, and ended up bringing a full closet and a half to our home…so that Shirley would have clothes to wear in whatever season there was. I would now be Shirley’s closet. Her wonderful, adoring adult children have just learned that I have a full closet and a half of Shirley’s wonderful, coordinated outfits. It’s Shirley out loud. Now what?
Shirley gave me the magic of the essence of being alive. Her smile was her calling card. Inspiration. It mattered not her age, she shopped Chico’s or any brand that suited her petite body. And shoes? Well, this Lady willed a most wonderful pair of shoes and a very favorite, fabulous belt to me. I know she knows I’m wearing them at the National Publicity Summit next week in NYC. She’ll be there with me calming my butterflies. Sleep well, girlfriend. Be at peace knowing that Ageless Dreamer lives and will grow stronger because of your influence. I love you. I miss you already. Thank you for putting up with all my chatter about dreaming outloud. I can only hope that I made some of your dreams come true.
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Boudaciously old October 14, 2008
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Sort of an oximoran but a word that just warms my heart and makes me want to sing out loud…louder.
Who do you know who’s boudaciously old?
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Stock Market down? Who Mfgs wheelchairs and walkers? October 14, 2008
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Wall Street. Wheel chair street.
We’re not talking tradionial handicap needs. We’re talking everyday, basic, celebrating being eighty day. I’m one of those who hope that exersising/yogasizng/walking/othersizing will make a H U G E difference in our life. And for those of us who it doesn’t make a difference for? How many? 50+-million somethings turning age 85 somethings or other. Is anyone reading this? Does anyone care?
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Polka Your Way Out Of Ageing October 14, 2008
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She must be crazy, you say? Polka your way out of ageing? Why not?
My husband, Peter (aka Swedish Kara Man) and I, just returned from a three day 75th Polkabration Anniversary hosted by Dick and JoAnne Pillar. Why you might ask? My Mom and Dad, Jim and Mae Ushinski, celebrated their 65 (yes, sixty fifth, aka the numbers six five) wedding anniversary on May 10, and we gave them this experience as a gift once again. It was a W O W the first time and it was a super wow again. If you’re interested I’ll give you the details later or email: pillar@dickpillar.com Tempting.
I walked into the main ballroom (where in the world DID that name, BALLroom, come from anyway?), and the crowd was hovering towards the polka band of the evening, humming along loudly. Sitting in a chair, centrally located in front of the microphone, was a brave gent in his late 80’s….maybe 90’s. In front, the birthday girl, born 1918, rotating her hips, turned to face her partner, then swiveled, swirled, bumped to the rythym…leaving the rest to the imagination. The screaming, loud noises were from the rest of the 200+- hundred+- in the room (yes, like a very big wedding) who egged them on. No difference from newly weds or old-ly wann-be-weds. Ageless Dreamer’s calling?
The alternative, if no one cares: staring at a blank wall; watching TV 18 hours a day; sitting at a park bench waiting for someone to come by and say hello; googling hoping to tap into someone who cares; dialing 911 so that you know some one’s there:
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Glow in the Dark Wheelchairs October 14, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamer.Tags: walker, wheelchair
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I hope you laughed when you read the title because it’s probably more of a reality then we can even imagine. Hmmmm….how about a reality show featuring 85 year olds??
Everyone line up on the beach…walkers first, wheelchairs behind…at the sight of the sunrise…GO !
There’s so much to say about this that I’m not sure where to start so I’m not going to. But please, if you stop and pause to read anything on this blog, or even more important the website, don’t hesitate to tell us/me what you could care less about, love about, want us to continue, discontinue, write more about, less about, emphasize, or disenchant.
Anything that’s not a complaint – you can read that in any newspaper or listen to on TV new.
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
It was a good idea, not October 14, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamer.Tags: e-bay, entepreneur, Medicaid, medical equipment, Medicare, non-profit, United Way, wheelchair
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Ageless Dreamer receives the update notices from NH’s United Way on a regular basis. A month or so ago I recieved one and read that a family trust had some gently used medical equipment: motorized scooter, wheelchair, $ 1,000 value bidet used only once, stair lift, scooter lift for car, and various other medical devices. O.K., I thought. We’re a non profit in desperate need of an alternative way to raise the big kahuna. I’m an entrepreneur by nature….think outside the box. O.k. So, I call these folks and learn that they’ve been trying for months, since their Dad passed on, that they had no luck selling these items…even on e-bay. What in the world made me think that Ageless Dreamer could do something with them? Greatest strength, greatest weakness. My very patient, adoring, and generous husband agreed that we would make arrangements to pick up the items from the storage space they had been paying for for many months. The family, rightfully so, wanted to “close the estate”, and these items were occupying space. Ageless Dreamer, of course, doesn’t own storage space, but the Founder does have a business interest in a storage facility in Dover, NH, and knows they could move the equiptment into space for probono. Perfect. They borrowed a box truck from a friend and picked up the “gently used” medical equipment with high hopes of finding an alternative, creative way to help fund Ageless Dreamer.
Fast forward, 45 days. The Board of Directors of Ageless Dreamer is not impressed with the idea of the organization being a warehouse for “gently used” medical equipment. O dear, what now. So, I start keeping an ear and eye out for who we can sell/give this really good “gently used” equipment to. Medicaid, or is it Medicare(?), evidently prefers to sell new “stuff” to those in need so they don’t care about this market. Where in the world is that money coming from? Anyways, Ageless Dreamer has learned real fast that, although there’s a real need for “gently used”, no one is willing to pay for it themselves. Finally, in the end, we’ve found (although not yet gotten a follow up phone call from), two companies in the Concord/Manchester, NH area that will accept this “stuff”, refurbish it, and resell it at a “gentler price”….my words. It makes me wonder: if the “gently used” stuff, which is less costly then “new”, cannot be sold because Medicare/caid won’t pay for it — will this “gently used”, perfectly good, acceptable “stuff” be put into the landfills. Who’s going to pay for that? Our great grandchildren?
Before I forget, I must say that I called the Lions Club, Rye, NH. because I had heard over and over that accept “gently used” medical equipment, refurbish it, and then make it available, at no cost, to anyone who needs it. Lo and behold, they had an overload, over-filled storage bin full that they couldn’t accept anymore. Also, they determined, it was a full time job to handle the free rental/return. It was a huge awakenining. I’m writing this and hoping that someone, someplace is reading, and on the same page I am.
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark
Say what we mean, mean what we say October 14, 2008
Posted by Ageless Dreamer Foundation in Ageless Dreamer.Tags: Bellamy Fields, Board of Directors, care-givers, non-profit, websites
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Lo and behold, if you ask enough people you’ll get an answer. The good thing is that we have extraordinarly good Board of Directors, who are thinking all the time. One of them, Tammy Svenson, who works with Dr. John Hopkins at Bellamy Fields in Dover, NH, was insightful enough to forward the website for Ageless Dreamer on to a friend who has immense experience in paying attention to non profit (that’s an understatement) websites. The reply was initially exciting because it was from someone we didn’t know, and then depressing because it was from someone who knew an amazing amount about non profit websites and saw our weaknesses. It’s one of those be careful what you wish for moments. The two top observations I’ve already mentally struggled with: is the website trying to get the attention of our oldest generation OR the adult children, grandchildren, care-givers? Ahhhhh, we need to do both, and time is of the essence.
Copyright 2008 Laurie Widmark